Doug Bruns

Gross domestic what? (Part 1)

In Family, Happiness, Life, Philosophy, The Examined Life on May 19, 2010 at 8:51 am

A repost from May, 2010.

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There are lots of things I didn’t teach my kids. I didn’t teach them how to manage money or change the oil in their car or even how to cook an egg. I am hesitatingly interested in someday sitting down with them and finding out what I did, indeed, teach them.  I think their mother and I did a good job of instilling in them a thirst for life, that is, a way of looking at the world so as to render it exciting and if not exciting, at least interesting. That is, it seems to me, important. I know I failed in teaching them how to think about their life in some meaningful context, which is, I intuitively feel, part of being happy. It would have been good to teach them how to be happy. I’m not sure it’s correct to call that a “meaningful context,” as I refer to it above. But it doesn’t feel wrong either.

We live in a country that embraces the pursuit of this effervescent, ineffable thing called happiness. It is important–I guess–to have an unalienable right to chase it.* But it seems there are a lot of people who aren’t, happy that is, or even pursing it directly, there being too many other pressing issues. That is nothing more than my generalization, but I am, as I have said before, comfortable with generalizations (in general). I see a lot of people on the streets here who are struggling, a good many of them living hand to mouth. I don’t think they are happy, at least not the ones I talk to. At the other end of the spectrum, I see people on nice boats who seem happy, especially on pleasant summer days. But when I talk to boat owners they almost all express a degree of frustration about owning a boat. I am surprised how consistently the phrase, “A boat is a hole in the water you throw money into,” is used. If there is a creed for boat owners this seems to be it. People with money are worried, particularly as the markets continue to roil, that they will lose it. People without money are worried that they will never get it, money, and the relief it grants. Don’t get be wrong, having money is better than not having it. Studies have shown that people with it, are likely happier as a result. But it’s not a sure-fire recipe for a hearty belly-filling meal of happiness.

There is a great deal of interest in happiness in physiology at present. At Harvard, in 2009, the class “Positive Psychology” by professor Tal D. Ben-Shahar was the most popular class on campus. In a phone interview with the Boston Globe, Professor Ben-Shahar said, “‘When nations are wealthy and not in civil turmoil and not at war, then I think, like Florence of the 15th century, they start asking what makes life worth living, and that’s what positive psychology is about.”

It is about time someone got to the bottom of this quest for happiness.  One thing that troubles me, is how to go about understanding it. This is one reason I could never teach my kids anything much about it. I don’t really understand it, can’t put my finger just on it. I think we–their mother and I–showed it to them. They were raised in a household by loving parents, two adults succeeding at making a marriage work. That is a level, a degree of happiness: a home, solid and unshifting. Such an environment is a garden in which happiness can grow. It is rich soil. Happiness doesn’t necessarily flourish as a result, but the odds are better.

* It is no less than ironic, that in this time of Tea Parties and faith-based political initiatives, that the pursuit of happiness is an idea born of eighteenth century notions of European enlightenment. “I believe that humanism, at least on the levels of politics, might be defined as every attitude that considers the aim of politics to be the production of happiness.” (M. Foucault, 1967)

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This blog is, as I’ve said, is my little workshop. I hum away here, turning and twisting my project to the light, working on it, setting it aside then coming back to it. Some projects–ideas–are bigger than others and require more bench time. So, not to grow tedious, I will set them aside from time to time and return later. This narration falls into that category.

…as they used to say in the era of black and white television: Stay Tuned.

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  1. Although I’ve not read much about the “positive psychology” class, I might be an inherent believer in it — maybe by trying to promote a brighter outlook. A little example: My Facebook updates tend to be positive, maybe irritatingly so. Could I whine online? Sure. I’ve got 20 years of daily muscle pain to whine about — but choose not to. Why spread that negative energy to online friends? It’s better, IMHO, to remain positive and look for small daily doses of happiness.

  2. I put my palms together and bow in your direction.

  3. […] thoughts on happiness and the gross domestic product in previous blog entries, which can be found here and here.) There is also a wonderful blog linked in the article which warrants consideration, a […]

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