Doug Bruns

What a man should know.

In Family, Life on August 20, 2012 at 6:00 am

My daughter is getting married in less than two months.

Today is the anniversary of my marriage of thirty-four years. I believe in marriage and am happy for Allison. The journey her mother and I have enjoyed these years has been most excellent.

I will be giving a toast. I am okay with that; indeed, I am honored. I will also be dancing with my daughter, the new bride, in front of everyone. I am less than okay with that. A slow dance, arms draped, feet shuffling, is one thing in high school. But grown ups should know better. I should know better–I should know how to dance. This set me to pondering other things a man should know. I’ve made a short list below.

Ten things a man should know how to do:

  • Tie a bow tie.
  • Drive a stick shift.
  • Make a martini.
  • Build a fire.
  • Laundry.
  • Change a tire.
  • Cook a fancy dinner.
  • Listen carefully.
  • Discuss one important book


  • Dance with his daughter.
  1. I’m glad it’s a short list because I was starting to feel grossly inadequate.

  2. From the female point of view, I would sacrifice the fancy dinner cooking for two other important male skills, both dealing with homeland security:

    1. Get out of bed to confront perceived intruders in the middle of the night.

    2. Remove mice/bats/cockroaches/seagulls from the inappropriate places they may have found in one’s home.

    On second thought, I forgot you have Lucy to handle those important items. But these would surely apply to non-dog-owning men.

    Good luck with the dance lessons. Why don’t you select “Louie, Louie” as your father-daughter dance music? You can just stand there and shake your bootie!

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